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A Theme is what You Make of It.

Normally, the moment a girl announces her engagement the first question that she’s asked is, “How did he propose? Or even “Oooh, let’s see the ring!”. The latter often from her gaggle of girlfriends. These days, there is a growing trend where the bride-to-be is asked, “What’s your wedding theme?” instead. I've observed that this question, more often that not, pops the bubble of her ‘just engaged bliss’; it is the catalyst that sends her reeling into the madness of the I-need-to-make-sure-every-detail-is-just-right' thoughts. Funnily, almost as an afterthought, She might add, “well I mean me AND my sweetheart”.

Themes, on their own, need not be a complicated and I always advice my brides-to-be to take a relaxed approach to fixing a theme. The reason for a theme is just so that your wedding will be remembered in a way that is associated with you. It doesn’t define you but rather highlights a piece from the vibrant mosaic of you and your partner’s life to your guests.

Here are a few themes I've come across that might interest you:

• It could be a colour - a green and white colour palette is very chic these days.

• A photo - images of the both of you at a certain age.

• An era -  think 1920’s flapper style.

• A whimsical doodle on a napkin - use this in your wedding stationery and anywhere else you’d like.

• A flower - he bought you daisies every week when he was courting you.

• A favourite band -  hey if you like the sounds of John, Paul, George and Ringo, go for it.

• A cause - eco weddings are perfect if you care for the environment and would like to make a statement.

• A favourite interest -  take inspiration from activities such as travelling or your common love for gardening or the sea.

As you can see, one is limited only by one's imagination.

The bottom line is that you should fun. Don’t get caught up with petty details. After all, half the fun of the wedding is in the planning.